Office Romance | Elephant in the Office | EP 5


Office romance ohohoho juicy but most times taboo it should be no surprise that co-workers can develop feelings for one another given how much time you spend at work office romance is often viewed negatively because it might lead to conflicts of interest as well as other issues At best, you are this month’s tea At worst, you may need to switch jobs However, there are ways to handle an office relationship professionally Just ask Bill and Melinda Gates Okay, just kidding If you are starting a relationship with a co-worker, or you are already in one, or you just want to be “kepoh”, here are some things to consider: It’s important to know how your management feels about office romance Some companies require you to inform HR or your manager if you’re in an office relationship This is to create transparency and help others manage the situation accordingly Unfortunately, some companies have strict rules against office romance Once you have determined your company’s stance you should ask yourself if it’s truly worth it Which brings us to point number two You can’t really know if a relationship is going to work out Life is uncertain that way But that doesn’t mean we cannot assess if this is it Ask yourself hard questions Is this relationship budding from multiple late-night work sessions? Sharing the same frustrations about your clients? Or, do you actually have a connection beyond the office? Ask yourself these questions before moving on to the next point. If you have decided to be in a relationship keep a professional distance and be mindful of your interactions with each other PDA or public displays of affection may look unprofessional Moreover, it could make others in the office uncomfortable and affect workplace dynamics Don’t let your relationship distract you from work or affect your decision-making People may still gossip but at least you are keeping it professional Every relationship has disagreements and arguments However, try not to bring your personal issues into the workplace It’s not easy when you share the same office but try to keep things professional and address your personal issues after hours So, before you dive into an office romance remember the points above Always be professional and honest with yourself, your partner and your colleagues Some relationships don’t work out Usually, we just need some time to heal But if office romance becomes a serious issue you might want to think about whether it’s worth staying in your current workplace And of course, no matter where you are we hope your romance will blossom As you grow together may your careers grow too Thanks for tuning in to Elephant in the Office Happy Valentine’s Day to those who celebrate And we will see you in the next episode

David Kosky talks about Work.Life


Hello Nina – welcome to London! Hello Nina. My name is David. I’m one of the co-founders of WORK.LIFE. WORK.LIFE is a Coworkingspace. What makes it really different is that we focus on intimate spaces. Coworking is growing massively, recently. A lot of the spaces are fantastic, but really large. WORK.LIFE focusses on providing intimate workspace, tight-knit communities and a space where people can really enjoy every day they spend at the office. Like a lot of people, I was working in a job. So was my business partner. We saw there’s a big opportunity. So, the “world of work” was changing. We knew how we felt about going to work and what we were doing. And we recognised that there was an attitudinal shift taking place in the work force. While 20 years ago, many people wanted to become a lawyer and wanted to work for big business, now more and more people wanted to do their own things. People came up with amazing ideas. So, on the one side we saw that there is an attitudinal change. More and more people are going to become freelancers, small businesses, so that is only going to grow. And that is a trend that is not going to slow down. And equally, we saw from a property angle, that more and more landlords were going to profit. From a property angle, porperty was changing. And the idea that people now wanted flexibility, the demand was coming from small businesses. But even now, bigger businesses were looking for Coworkingspaces, it was attracting. 5 years ago, you would never have had a big business put a team in a Coworkingspace. And we saw the “world of work” was changing from that perspective, as well. So, we saw the demand not only from startups. But, in London, now, you now got a lot of bigger businesses who were looking up flexible space. So, me and my business partner, we were finding out on holiday… We knew each other, not good friends. And we both were coincidentally leaving our jobs at the same time. So we had the idea – we saw a gap in the market. To provide a more happy Coworkingspace which is more homely, more intimate. And so we both left our jobs, started working together. And here we are. We got a real range, a mix of clients. From freelancers who previously were working on their kitchen table or in the coffee shops… … up to bigger business like “Ernst & Young”. We have MTV as members. Dr. Martens. So, we have a real range. And I think that for us, that’s really interesting. We got big businesses with small businesses. Simply put, co-working is a collective group of people, doing different things, working under one roof. So – not one business in one space. And, historically, properties have been around, having one business that would take one floor of a building. Coworking means lots of different businesses of all sizes doing different things in one space. Hopefully as part of a community, to enjoy benefits from being in a space together. We’re a startup, you know. We know how to house startups. We are a startup. Like a lot of people, we had an idea or concept, and we went out and tried to get some initial investors. Which we managed to to. We managed to find the property at the same time. We told the initial investors we had the property. We told the landlord we had the money. It all came together at the same time. We just have done another fund raising round this year. So we have just have been back this year to do another six sites. By the end of 2017, we are going to have 9 locations. We are just being agreed a bank facility, with a really interesting bank. And we just agreed to a joint venture with Verizon. So we are now setting up a joint venture Coworkingspace in London, with Verizon. Which is really interesting. Verizon is really a global business. The interesting thing is that they really want to connect with fast growing businesses. The challenge big businesses have is how to properly engage with them. So, we partner with Verizon to set up a joint venture Coworkingspace, where Verizon as a “Fortune 50” company can work next to some really interesting startups. And potentially invest in them, buy them or use their services and products for some of their global clients. Number one: a digital marketer. Unless you know how to do it, digital marketing is key. So we should have brought in a digital marketing expert far earlier. But yeah, the great thing about starting your own business is you learn the whole time. So I learned loads of things, from managing my site, project management. It’s a cliché thing, but if you have people who have done it before – just soak up as much knowledge. Go and ask as many people for advice as possible. That’s something we did – and it was really helpful. Best tip: find a good business partner.That is the best tip. Doing it by yourself is very very hard. Setting our business up was an emotional rollercoaster. So, find a good business partner, and someone who has got a complementary skill set. If you are both good at marketing, it’s not going to work. If you are both tech guys, very simply you need the operational guy and the front “schmoozer”, the sales and marketing guy. Those are the two things in a business you need. You need someone to create the product and deliver it, and you need someone to sell the product. We use “Xero”, which is very very good. It’s very good reporting and management information. One thing we have been working on which is quite interesting is a brand new co-working membership. It’s something we called “Flex”. The best way to think of it is “UBERmeets Oyster-Card”. You know, Oyster-Card in the UK – you tap in, tap out. What we developed is a page where you go for a co-working membership. Freelancers and remote workers can sign up to WORK.LIFE, it’s costing nothing. They can come in, join all the community events, enjoy all the work space, free coffee, great Wi-Fi. And they pay by the hour. It’s actually 3,50 an hour, they tap in, tap out and get a bill send like you would do an UBER, which is interesting. HelloNina – thank you very much for spending the day with me at WORK.LIFE. We hope to see you again – you are welcome back whenever you like.

How to Blow Off Steam at Work


How to Blow Off Steam at Work. Sometimes the pressure can be too much. You can release some steam at work in several
ways without saying something you’ll regret later. You will need Breaks Music Family or a friend
and office (optional). Step 1. Go for a drive, wander in the park, or browse
the local bookstore at lunch. Step 2. If you have your own office, stop everything,
lie on the floor, and stretch, relax, or practice deep breathing exercises. Step 3. Clean your desk and reorganize your workspace. Expending energy by standing up and moving
around might get your mind off irritating situations, and having a clean, organized
workspace will calm you down. Step 4. Listen to music to soothe your emotions. If your company doesn’t aloud headphones at
work, go out to your car and listen to music in the parking lot on your break. Music releases endorphins and recharges you. Step 5. Take a break. Talk to coworkers at the coffee machine or
while waiting for a meeting to start. Tell a joke or story to cheer a coworker,
which will have the same effect on you. Laughter in the workplace promotes creativity
and strengthens relationships. Step 6. Really burned up? Step outside and give a family member or friend
a call to vent your frustrations. Talking to someone who’s not involved in the
situation might give you some needed perspective. Did you know Johnson & Johnson’s workplace
preventative health care programs helped reduce employee incidents of high blood pressure
from 14 to 6 percent from the late 1990s to 2006.

Ellen Surprises a Viewer Live at Work!


– SO TODAY WE HAVE A BIG
SURPRISE FOR A VIEWER AND HER COWORKERS. THEY WORK AT NORDSTROM
ABOUT 30 MINUTES AWAY IN CANOGA PARK. AND SUSAN AND HER FRIENDS
CAME TO A TAPING LAST WEEK, TOLD MY STAFF HOW MUCH THEY LOVE WHEN I SURPRISE PEOPLE
ON THE SHOW, SO THAT’S WHAT I’M GONNA DO
RIGHT NOW. JEANNIE IS OUTSIDE
OF NORDSTROM, AND I AM GONNA GIVE
SUSAN A CALL. JEANNIE, ARE YOU THERE
AND READY? – HI, ELLEN.
I’M HERE AND I’M READY. – ALL RIGHT.
HOW IS IT THERE? – UH, IT’S BEAUTIFUL HERE.
THE WEATHER IS AMAZING. – YEAH, IT’S NOT AS COLD AS
WHERE WE NORMALLY SEND YOU, HUH? – NO, NO. – THANK YOU FOR CALLING
NORDSTROM TOPANGA. – OH, HI.
EXTENSION 1042, PLEASE. – I’LL CONNECT.
HAVE A GOOD DAY. – YOU TOO. [hold music playing] [line ringing] – JO MALONE LONDON.
THIS IS SUSAN. HOW MAY I HELP YOU? – OH, HI, SUSAN. THIS IS JO MALONE COUNTER,
RIGHT? – YES, THIS IS JO MALONE. – HELLO, SUSAN. QUICK QUESTION–
I HAVE A DRESSING ROOM. I WANT TO GET A SCENTED CANDLE
THAT’S VERY RELAXING. WHAT WOULD YOU RECOMMEND? – WELL, WE HAVE A NEW CANDLE
CALLED LAVENDER & LOVAGE… – OOH! – AND IT’S VERY, VERY RELAXING. – OH, WONDERFUL.
GOOD SUGGESTION. DO YOU THINK THAT WORKS WELL
FOR A TALK SHOW HOST? – FOR A WHAT?
I’M SORRY. – FOR A TALK SHOW HOST– WOULD A TALK SHOW HOST
LIKE THAT? – OH, IT WOULD BE BEAUTIFUL,
YES. – WHAT ABOUT– – IT’S BEAUTIFUL IN A ROOM
OR IN–IN ANYWHERE. – GOOD. WHAT ABOUT SOMEONE
WHO’S HOSTING THE OSCARS? WOULD SOMEONE LIKE THAT
LIKE IT? – OH, THEY WOULD LOVE IT. – YEAH.
– YOU MEAN, LIKE, ELLEN? – LIKE ELLEN DEGENERES,
LIKE ME, YEAH. – LIKE WHO?
– ME. IT’S ME.
– ELLEN! THIS IS ELLEN?
– IT IS. HEY, SUSAN. – [screaming] [cheers and applause] – THIS IS ELLEN DEGENERES? – YEAH, IT IS.
HEY, SUSAN– – IS THIS ELLEN?
– YEAH, SUSAN, IT IS. WHO ARE YOU THERE WITH,
YOUR FRIENDS? – YES, YEAH, MY FRIENDS
SABRINA AND SUE. – YOU LIKE WHEN
I SURPRISE PEOPLE, RIGHT? – OH, MY GOSH.
IT IS HER. IT’S HER. – OH, MY GOSH.
– IT’S HER, IT’S HER, IT’S HER. [voices overlapping] [all screaming] [cheers and applause] – HI, SUSAN. – HI, ELLEN!
HI, ELLEN! – HEY.
HI, LADIES. – HI, ELLEN.
HOW ARE YOU– – OH, THERE’S ELLEN! – HI, HI.
HI. all: HI, ELLEN! – SO LISTEN, I HEARD THAT YOU LIKE
WHEN I SURPRISE PEOPLE, SO I THOUGHT I WOULD
SURPRISE YOU–SURPRISE! – OH, MY GOD.
– TOTALLY SURPRISED ME. – YEAH. HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN
WORKING AT NORDSTROM? – OH– [laughter] I’VE BEEN SINCE 1985. – UH-HUH. AND YOUR FRIENDS
AND FAMILY GET– YOU GET A DISCOUNT FOR THAT,
RIGHT, SO I COULD USE THAT? – YES. ANYTIME.
I’LL HELP YOU, I’LL HELP YOU. – GOOD, GOOD. – I’LL HELP YOU.
WHATEVER YOU NEED, ELLEN. – OH, THANKS SO MUCH, SUSAN.
– YOU’RE MY FAMILY. – YES, I AM YOUR FAMILY.
THANK YOU. I LIKE TO THINK OF THAT–
MYSELF AS YOUR FAMILY ALSO. AND YOU HAD SO MUCH FUN
WHEN YOU WERE HERE LAST WEEK, I WANTED TO INVITE YOU BACK, SO DO YOU THINK YOU WOULD BE
ABLE TO GET TIME OFF IN DECEMBER FOR ONE OF MY
12 DAYS OF GIVEAWAYS? [all screaming] [cheers and applause] WE HAVE TO TAKE A BREAK.
WE’LL BE BACK. SO WE’RE BACK WITH SUSAN
AND SABRINA AND SUE, AND, SUSAN, A FEW MORE THINGS
I LEARNED ABOUT YOU. LET’S TALK ABOUT– YOU HAVE FOUR KIDS, AND THREE
OF ‘EM ARE IN COLLEGE, RIGHT? – YES. – YES, AND YOUR HUSBAND SCOTT WORKS 17 HOURS A DAY
AS A LIMO DRIVER? – YES. – THOSE ARE LONG HOURS. THEN–LET’S TALK ABOUT YOUR CAR. TELL ME ABOUT YOUR CAR. – OH! YOU MEAN BETSY? [laughter] UM, IT’S A 1990… – MM-HMM.
– IT’S OLDER THAN MY OLDEST SON. – UH-HUH. – AND IT–I HAVE TO JUMP IT
EVERY TIME I START IT. – YOU HAVE TO JUMP-START IT
EVERY TIME. YOU KNOW THERE–YOU’RE SUPPOSED
TO JUST USE A KEY. THAT’S– [laughter] – WHAT DID SHE SAY? – SHE SAID YOU’RE SUPPOSED
TO JUST USE A KEY. [laughter] – AND IT HAS, LIKE,
200,000 MILES OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT, RIGHT? – YES, YES.
– YEAH, ALL RIGHT. DO ME A FAVOR.
STEP OUTSIDE WITH JEANNIE. I WANT YOU TO JUST GET
SOME FRESH AIR. WALK OUTSIDE WITH JEANNIE. – COME ON OUTSIDE. [indistinct chatter] AND IT’S SO NICE.
THE WEATHER’S SO GOOD. – YES, IT IS, IT IS.
– ISN’T IT SO GREAT? – IT’S BEAUTIFUL.
– OH, THAT’S LOVELY OUTSIDE. YEAH, THAT’S BETTER LIGHT
ON EVERYBODY. OKAY, UM, SO ANYWAY– AND SO THE CAR’S NAME
IS BETSY? WHAT DO YOU WANT TO– – THE CAR’S NAME IS BETSY?
– BETSY, BETSY. – WHAT DO YOU WANT TO NAME
THE CAR THAT’S BEHIND YOU– THE RED CAR.
WHAT DO YOU WANT TO NAME THAT? THAT MAZDA
THAT’S RIGHT BEHIND YOU. – OH, IT’S RED!
IT’S RED! [cheers and applause] WHAT DID SHE SAY? – ELLEN, WILL YOU
TELL HER AGAIN? SHE DIDN’T HEAR YOU. – OH, YOU DIDN’T HEAR ME? I SAID, WHAT DO YOU WANT
TO NAME YOUR CAR? THAT’S YOUR BRAND-NEW MAZDA
RIGHT BEHIND YOU. [all screaming] [cheers and applause] – OH, MY GOSH. ELLEN, THANK YOU SO MUCH! – OF COURSE, OF COURSE. I HAVE A CANDLE THAT’LL SMELL
GOOD IN THERE TOO FOR YOU. OUR FRIENDS AT MAZDA, WHOSE DRIVE FOR GOOD PROGRAM
HAS DONATED $2.7 MILLION TO U.S. CHARITIES. IT’S A STYLISH,
SEVEN-PASSENGER S.U.V. THAT PERFORMS WITH
MAZDA’S EXCELLENT HANDLING. AND YOU’RE A WONDERFUL WOMAN,
AND ENJOY THAT CAR. YOU DON’T HAVE
TO JUMP-START THAT. – THANK YOU, ELLEN, SO MUCH. – ALL RIGHT. I WANT TO THANK MINNIE DRIVER.
I’LL SEE YOU TOMORROW. BE KIND TO ONE ANOTHER.
BYE-BYE.

The Guy Who Won’t Talk About Politics | Hardly Working


(playful music) – (groans) It’s not just the tax cuts, it’s the judges he’s appointing. – Ugh, Trump is packing the courts. – Grant, have you seen this article? – I don’t like to talk about politics. – Ugh, you’re one of those people? – What, talking about politics sucks. – People who don’t like
talking about politics always have horrifying politics. – I don’t, it’s just that politics always makes people get in fights. – Are you sure they’re
not fighting with you because what you’re saying
is offensive and wrong? – No, this stuff makes everybody mad. Can’t we just talk about the
golden age of television? – Hold on, what do you
think about the courts? – Well, if you’re gonna
force me to get political, I think that judges should be able to hit people with their cars. – God! – No, no, no, for crimes. A judge should be able to run
someone over with their car after they’ve been convicted. – That’s crazy. – See, this is why I don’t
want to talk about it. You guys watching The Deuce? – Are you like this about everything? What do you think about immigration? – I have no problem with immigrants. – Good. – I don’t, I think we should send all of our orphans to Mexico. – Why? – Well, think about it, they’re
not sending us their best. – Balk. – So let’s make it even. – Even? – Yeah, we’ll send them our worst, and there’s nothing worse
than a parentless child. You guys psyched for that
new Wendy’s down the street? – Grant, your opinions are insane. – Also, undocumented
immigrants should have to Hunger Games each other, but I don’t know why we
have to talk about it. – Because it’s important. I want to know what my
friends think about the world. – Right, and it turns out what
you think is fucking cooky. You know politics people are lunatics. – We agree on some things. – Do we? – Yeah, I don’t like to talk about it, but I love Obamacare. – I’m shocked. – Well, don’t be, smarty. Obamacare is when they
put all the hospitals in one city and don’t tell
people what the city is so then people have to
find the city, right? – You’re an idiot. – Politics makes us all idiots. – No, idiot politics makes you an idiot. – I just don’t understand
why I should have to talk about the fact that I
think that Net Neutrality should make all porn gay porn, or about how there should be coal in food, or about how it should
be illegal for women to swim in the ocean, I
just want to sit and talk about easy, uncontroversial things. – Fine, what do you think about sports? – Black people should have to
sing me the national anthem. – Oh, fuck you!
– Stop, wait! Hey, it’s Grant from College Humor. Click here to subscribe to the channel, click here for more fun stuff, and, sorry, guys, it feels
like I’m out, am I out? I, because I can like, I can
see the top of the camera so it’s, is this better? All right, it feels worse. Okay, uh, thanks for watching.

Emotional intelligence at work: Why IQ isn’t everything


Since I started writing about and researching
emotional intelligence in business, I found that data in support of it has only gotten
stronger. I saw recently a study, this surprised me,
engineers, software coders and so on were evaluated by their peers, people who work
with them day-to-day on how successful they were at what they do. This turns out to be one of the strongest
predictors of success in any field. And that was correlated with their IQ in one
hand and their emotional intelligence on the other. And when I say emotional intelligence they
were evaluated on a 360 that looks at all 12 of the key emotional intelligence competencies
that distinguish star performers from average. The surprise was this: IQ correlated zero,
zero with their success as rated by peers.Emotional intelligence correlated very, very highly. Well, why would that be? Well consider this, in order to be an engineer
you have to have an IQ about a standard deviation or more above average, that’s an IQ of about
115 or so. And another recent paper shows that there’s
no relationship between career success and an IQ above 120. The reason is this: there is a strong floor
effect for IQ in any role. All engineers have an IQ of 115 or more, so
the range of variance is very reduced for IQ and success. Emotional intelligence however varies radically. So emotional intelligence means: How well
you manage yourself. Can you work toward your goals despite obstacles? Do you give up too soon? Do you have a negative outlook or a positive
outlook? These are all emotional intelligence competencies
that matter for success. Then there’s the relationship competencies:
Can you tune in to other people? Do you notice other people? I remember hearing about two MIT grads who
went into a giant tech company, one of them went around to other members of her team and
asked, “What are you doing? How can I help? The other stayed in his office and wrote code
all day. It’s very clear who was going to get ahead;
it was the one who wanted to be a team player. You don’t write code in isolation anymore;
everyone works on projects together. You may write the code but you have to coordinate,
you have to influence, you have to persuade, you have to be a good team member. All of those are emotional intelligence competencies
that distinguish outstanding from average performers. So when you think about it that way, it makes
sense that even among engineers emotional intelligence will predict who is a star and
who’s just mediocre. And when you think about this at the organizational
level it means you want to be sure to include emotional intelligence when you consider hiring
people. I have a friend at an executive recruiting
company that specializes in C-level hires, CEOs, CFOs and so on. And they once did a study internally of people
they had recommended who turn out to be bad and were so bad they were fired. So these were failures, they were surprised
to have failures, but they realized when they looked more carefully that these were people
who were hired because of business expertise and IQ and fired because of a deficiency in
emotional intelligence, so it’s more important than ever these days. And so in hiring it needs to be considered,
and in promoting people, of course, it needs to be considered. And it should be part of HR. It should be what you help people develop
for their strengths. Because the good news about emotional intelligence
is: It’s learned and learnable, and you can upgrade it at any point in life if you’re
motivated.

Trapped in the Office on a Holiday – Corporate


I forgot they turn the A/C off
over the weekend. Why did we even wear
suits today? Nobody’s here. I guess I was sort of
on autopilot this morning. Most of the time, I’m barely
paying attention to what I’m doing. Sometimes I don’t even
realize I’m at work until I’m leaving
for the day. [ Slurps ] Oh!
That coffee’s from Friday. If we’re gonna be trapped
here on a holiday, let’s at least
be comfortable. Okay, we know basically
what they need to say. Let’s just throw some stuff
out there. All right.
How about this? “Hi. I’m Kate,
and this is John, and we’re responsible
for a string of murders across Central Florida
in 2003.” “Hi. I’m Kate, and this is John,
and for the next few minutes, try not to imagine us
having terrifying sex.” Hi. I’m Kate,
and this is John, and we flew here today
on a private fucking jet to tell you about how the
environment is in trouble. Are you giving a speech or
guiding a plane on the tarmac? I’m using my hands
to speak. Any good public speaker
will tell you that the hands are
the mouth of the torso. No one will
tell you that. But if they did,
they would use…their hands. Okay. How about this
for a second sentence? “Hampton DeVille
is going green.” Ohh!
Powerful. Sorkin-esque. This is really starting
to come together.